|8 first date dos and
1. Be positive, upbeat and enthusiastic. No woe-is-me or pity-pot
whining. Make eye contact, smile, be friendly and be yourself.
2. Be a good listener. Ask questions about him. Avoid talking too
much, and don't talk about your ex (es). If he asks about them,
be honest, but don't dwell on how good or bad they were. Answer
briefly, then bounce a question back to him.
3. Show interest, but don't gush. Compliment him on something
assuming there is something like his shoes, shirt, haircut
or smile. Don't paw him. Guys think women who touch too soon or
too much are suggesting intimacy.
4. Use proper etiquette. Dress appropriately for the occasion.
Avoid eating spinach or anything that might stick in your teeth.
No lipstick or mirror at the table; no toothpick going out the door.
5. Don't order the most expensive item on the menu. A glass of
house wine is fine you don't need Sonoma County's finest
6. Don't be confrontational or argumentative. Don't proclaim, "I
hate sex" or "No sex for six months" or some other
turnoff. Unless you mean it. And if you do, you may not have a second
7. Don't be a bore. Don't name-drop or talk about your wealth,
or lack thereof.
8. End the date on a high note. When the date is winding down,
be assertive (not aggressive). Say something like, "I'm going
to a picnic on Sunday, would you like to join me?" Don't leave
it open-ended by saying, "Let's get together sometime."
Look him in the eye and say, "I had a great time. We seemed
to click. I want to see you again." If you follow these tips,
and he still doesn't ask you out, forget him -- he's not the right
guy for you. You put your best foot forward, and you wouldn't want
to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you.